In reply to @vcunat:matrix.org
Right now people are busy with NixCon, so I don't expect the moderation team to be reacting within an hour.

+1 to joepie91 🏳️‍🌈's assessment. I don't want to speak too much outside my experience as a privileged tech dude, but I'm going to go ahead and try to provide some more perspective. If I get something wrong please feel free to correct me (you can DM me or call me out publicly) and I'll remove/amend what I've put here.

What many of us are missing is that concern trolling and debate (I.e. arguing to win) tactics are often used to further silence marginalized people. If you spend a large amount of your life with dogwhistles and bad faith arguments directed at you then they start having a certain overpowering loudness to them. The worst part is to most people on the outside these tactics look benign, even when they're used to shut down the voices of those who are marginalized.
People who "just ask hard questions" and "have concerns" often do so and bring up lofty ideas like (their) free speech, and freeze up the entire conversion. This pushes out the marginalized people who have to deal with the real consequences of the topic of the debate. The people being pushed out rightfully find their mental well being and sometimes literal safety not worth membership in an online group that won't take their grievances seriously.
Sometimes this is done intentionally, sometimes it isn't, the result is the same. When you are constantly the target of bad faith attempts to shut down your voice, even if someone unwittingly makes those same arguments, that's going to feel like an attack on you. Because you're used to it (more often then not) being a bad faith attempt at silencing you.

Let's also not pretend that everyone in the Nixos community is privileged or safe from conflict, even in the privileged US I have trans friends who are very rightly concerned about being in a literal firing line (state sanctioned or otherwise), and coworkers who fled to the United States from actual warzones.

And about the people making the arguments that they are going to be silenced by some leftist thought police: Well in some senses they are, depending how far down the rabbit hole they've gone. But I'd bet that 90% of people who raise this concern in good faith would never actually be censored, they just don't like the idea that maybe one day they might be called out and held accountable for what they say. And, like, not even in a bad way necessarily. Usually when I'm "held accountable for what I've said" it ends with me being much more enlightened about the issues others face; and the people I hurt feeling heard and respected by both me and the community we share. It's not like I'm driven out with pitchforks and torches with no chance for an apology or to clear up miscommunication. So all that is to say I consider "calling out the individual actions that drive marginalized people away" far more palatable than "protecting the voices of those doing the driving away".

two thoughts on that:

1. I'm always happy to answer questions, as long as they are asked in good faith (asking to learn rather than asking to challenge, no presumptions, etc.) - I've had hours long productive conversations with people as a result of these
2. if you'd rather not deal with the topic at all, then that's fine too of course, but then please actually refrain from commenting instead of making vague statements/assertions/etc. and exiting stage left when someone responds, because this is exhausting for others to deal with and disruptive to conversation