| 4 Nov 2021 |
 Irenes | thanks so much, @joepie91 <3 | 09:43:34 |
| Irenes | yeah - I take it for granted sometimes that people know how this stuff goes, because I've just seen it all too many times | 09:44:07 |
| Irenes | but this is the time to explain it all, for people who haven't | 09:44:15 |
| Irenes | I don't want hostility | 09:44:21 |
| Irenes | I've tried my best to meet hostility with love, and I will continue doing that | 09:44:40 |
| Irenes | but at some point in any community's history, this stuff has to be talked about so that a shared understanding of it can become the status quo | 09:45:20 |
| Irenes | I do think the discussions have identified some weaknesses in the RFC as it's written | 09:45:38 |
| Irenes | some of which we've addressed, some of which we're still working on | 09:45:45 |
| Irenes | and it will be better for that | 09:45:49 |
 piegames | Maybe we can copy the most important parts of the above into the RFC, as a kind of prelude or something so that more people understand? Although some points are already mentioned within it, it could maybe be made even more clear upfront. | 09:46:35 |
| Irenes | the high-tension stuff only has to happen once, as long as we arrive at a shared understanding that actually embodies justice | 09:46:43 |
| Irenes | thanks @piegames :) yeah that's actually one of the action items right now | 09:46:58 |
| Irenes | if we don't address everything important, and leave an unjust status quo, that will set up the seeds of more stuff down the line, until and unless the people around at that point want to actually finish the work. | 09:48:02 |
| Irenes | it's just literally talking through all this stuff about how everyone comes from different perspectives and wants different things | 09:48:19 |
| Irenes | and figuring out what it takes for everyone to coexist without giving up the stuff that's important to them | 09:48:40 |
| Irenes | that's not the default | 09:48:50 |
| Irenes | because the world in general is not, you know... that work hasn't been done at the world scale | 09:49:09 |
| Irenes | but Nix is a community that's honestly in quite a good place, relatively speaking | 09:49:20 |
| Irenes | and I am confident we can all talk stuff through and do that work at the small scale | 09:49:33 |
| Irenes | it's a small enough place that that's feasible | 09:49:39 |
| Irenes | so that's my understanding of all this | 09:50:03 |
| Irenes | I realize some people will find it very abstract, and that's fine and I'm happy to talk through it more, although right at this moment I'm a little tired and not really able to give responses that require creativity | 09:50:28 |
| Irenes | (I was able to say the above because it's all stuff I've thought through many times, I didn't have to come up with it on the fly) | 09:50:47 |
 ash (it/its) 🏳️⚧️ | i'll just say that i agree with what irenes and joepie91 have said here. the conflicts we've seen lately are a symptom of stuff that's already existed under the surface. it's good to talk about it in the open, so we can actually work to make it better | 09:57:02 |
 joepie91 🏳️🌈 | In reply to @irenes:matrix.org
because the world in general is not, you know... that work hasn't been done at the world scale I feel like this warrants highlighting a bit more - a lot of the conflict avoidance that I see around moderation topics seems to be founded on the idea that broader society has already figured stuff out, and so we should just 'go with it' (or as the Dutch would say, 'act normal') and it'll all work itself out... but in reality there's plenty of injustice, plenty of power imbalances, plenty of discrimination in broader society, and if we want the NixOS community to be a broadly welcoming and productive community, then it needs to be better than the societal status quo | 10:41:04 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | and that's what requires asking the uncomfortable questions | 10:41:34 |
 Emil Karlson | is the scope of the problem in current nixos community described somewhere? | 10:54:27 |
| Emil Karlson | like "Do not allow the Nix community to be a place for spreading ideas rooted in fascism or bigotry" does not quite seem likely | 10:55:33 |
| Emil Karlson | I think wording like that is maybe a reason for the backlash, but I would not know | 10:56:03 |
| Emil Karlson | or at least something that will catch attention | 10:57:02 |
