| 5 Nov 2021 |
 problems | something i forgot to say: with the traditional approach i mentioned, we could ofc find more people with those skills already, but they're not that common so i don't consider it sustainable. we could bring in experienced moderators from other places, but they would be out of touch with the nixos community | 17:36:15 |
 joepie91 🏳️🌈 | jonringer: okay, so after thinking about it for a bit, I have a further question: could you think of a hypothetical example of the kind of 'norms demand' you're concerned about? something that would make you uncomfortable if it were asked of you because it would mean 'compromising your identity', and that you feel could plausibly be asked by an RFC-98-style community team. | 17:38:08 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | (if you're not comfortable mentioning such an example in public here, DM would also be fine) | 17:38:39 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | (also, to be clear, I don't intend to be judgmental here, I'm just trying to better understand how you are interpreting the proposal, because I suspect there's a language barrier of sorts involved here) | 17:44:55 |
 jonringer | Personally, I still have a lot of cognitive dissonance around the usage of "they" to mean a single individual. It goes against what I learned in school (third person plural pronoun), and feels like my understanding of my own language needs to be re-defined.
I'm still fine in referring to someone as they, it just causes me some cognitive dissonance (or "emotial labor" I think is the term) each time as I'm having to unlearn "they" and relearn someone else's "they".
This is probably a bad example, as language constructs aren't consistent even within the same language or culture groups. But you wanted an example, and for some reason I chose this one.
Then again, I'm probably just a bigot. So I don't understand. | 17:45:09 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | jonringer: no, I think that example is fine, actually | 17:45:58 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | jonringer: so if I understand correctly, it's not so much the "being expected to use they" that's your concern here, but rather a 'fear of consequences' for not getting it perfectly right or forgetting to do it? | 17:47:04 |
| jonringer | Also, another user was banned over this very issue as well. their statement and punishment | 17:47:11 |
| jonringer | * Also, another user was banned over this very issue as well. their statement and punishment | 17:47:26 |
| jonringer | Both. The time I forget to use the other usage, will be final eggshell. and I'll be genesis 2.0 | 17:48:03 |
| jonringer | Also, this is just one example. The language 98 opens the door to many similar instances. | 17:48:34 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | jonringer: hold on, I want to get this specific example a bit clearer first :p | 17:49:03 |
| jonringer | I have a bit more context in this post. https://github.com/NixOS/rfcs/pull/114#discussion_r743828914 | 17:49:40 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | jonringer: you say that it's "both" that concern you, but in your initial message you said "I'm still fine in referring to someone as they" - I'm not sure how to reconcile those two things | 17:49:51 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | (I do have some comments on the genesis ban, but I'll save those for later, I want to understand your concern first) | 17:50:27 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | * (I do have some comments on the genesis ban, but I'll save those for later, I want to accurately understand your concern first) | 17:50:36 |
| jonringer | joepie91 🏳️🌈: I'm very libertarian, as long as you are impeding my life, liberty, or pursuit of happiness. I don't really care what you do. So if someone prefers a pronoun, I'm indifferent at an emotion and personal level. It just isn't the "social norm" I'm familiar with. | 17:51:11 |
| jonringer | * joepie91 🏳️🌈: I'm very libertarian, as long as you are not impeding my life, liberty, or pursuit of happiness. I don't really care what you do. So if someone prefers a pronoun, I'm indifferent at an emotion and personal level. It just isn't the "social norm" I'm familiar with. | 17:51:20 |
| jonringer | * joepie91 🏳️🌈: I'm very libertarian, as long as you are not impeding my life, liberty, or pursuit of happiness. I don't really care what you do. So if someone prefers a pronoun, I'm indifferent at an emotion and personal level. It's just isn't the "social norm" I'm familiar with. | 17:51:37 |
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| jonringer | * joepie91 🏳️🌈: I'm very libertarian, as long as you are not impeding my life, liberty, or pursuit of happiness. I don't really care what you do. So if someone prefers a pronoun, I'm indifferent at an emotion and personal level. It's just isn't the "social norm" I'm familiar with.
The "social norm" landscape could change tomorrow, while I'm under my little OSS rock, and commit some grievous act of insensitivity.
| 17:52:24 |
| jonringer | I'm probably digging myself into a hole I did not intend. And feel like these discussions are now looking for ways to find "vulnerabilities" in what I say, or take what I said out of context. I will excuse myself. | 17:54:16 |
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