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5 Nov 2021
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringerSure, no one is going to receive "a stranger" well. I just wish I was made aware of it before having to tell him that although he was the only one to nominate or be nominated, that he was denied the role of release manager. And that these issues (that I was not aware of outside of python package reviews) were going on for months. I'm all in favor of having some type of moderation framework with actual people that can be approached, and that's the parts that I really like about 98. I just don't like the scope of moderation to also encompass behavior need to align to a "social norm" narrative. 04:34:25
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesyes, I also wish that had happened.04:37:41
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringer * Sure, no one is going to receive "a stranger" well. I just wish I was made aware of it before having to tell him that although he was the only one to nominate or be nominated, that he was denied the role of release manager. And that these issues (that I was not aware of outside of python package reviews) were going on for months. I'm all in favor of having some type of moderation framework with actual people that can be approached, and that's the parts that I really like about 98. I just don't like the scope of moderation to also encompass behavior needing to align to a "social norm" narrative. 04:38:20
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesthe norms we're talking about are just the stuff about treating each other with respect and all that.04:39:12
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI mean, it's okay to disagree that we should do that but it's not anything sinister.04:39:30
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenes setting it as a social norm works (or at least that's our belief), in a way that a focus on punishment does not 04:39:57
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ
In reply to @jonringer:matrix.org
As long as I feel like we all of have Nix as the first priority. I can tolerate some behavior that I may not agree with. But having other people tell me how I should act, say, or think is not making Nix a priority. It's making their narrative a priority.
I am having trouble reconciling this. assuming that you agree that "a healthy community is necessary for the success of Nix", this seems to imply that you believe that you personally could not ever do anything to make the Nix community less healthy; because if you could, then other people should be able to say something about how you act or what you say, to safeguard the health of the community - and calling out hypothetical problematic behaviour would be making Nix a priority. what am I missing here?
08:52:28
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringer

"a healthy community is necessary for the success of Nix"

I believe we have different opinions about what health means. I mean RFC#114, I think you mean RFC#98.

this seems to imply that you believe that you personally could not ever do anything to make the Nix community less healthy

I want to see it succeed. But it is within my fallibility to cause damage unintentionally. Also, please avoid ad-hominem comments, it largely serves to make the other defensive.

because if you could, then other people should be able to say something about how you act or what you say

If I'm out of line, then I would like to know. I'm human. I'm imperfect. I have biases, both conscious and unconscious.

and calling out hypothetical problematic behaviour would be making Nix a priority.

No. I've been advocating for months that someone (or people) with problem resolution skills should be able to effectively arbitrate situations which could escalate.

15:02:43
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringerMe "calling out" behavior, is usually be something already did escalate. And I took issue with the resolution.15:06:00
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringer * Me "calling out" behavior, is usually because something already did escalate. And I took issue with the resolution.15:08:12
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎar joepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ: I'm quite worried about the culture of telling people not to express their negative feelings on the RFC 16:00:41
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎarif someone says they are going to quit our community, the last thing I want to tell them is to say "this is not the place to do it" without providing an alternative16:04:30
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎarisn't the whole point to nurture and signal to people they can feel safe and accepted?16:04:56
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎarit's all seems backwards 16:05:03
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎar * it all seems backwards 16:05:35
@domenkozar:matrix.orgDomen KoΕΎarif there's was ever a sign of oppressive authoritarianism in our community it's this kind of stuff happening on the very RFC that is saying to prevent it16:09:47
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ jonringer: to clarify, my message wasn't a personal attack, nor an attempt to imply that you are behaving problematically. I'm just trying to better understand where you're drawing the lines of what is and isn't acceptable in the context of Nix's health as a project, because I cannot logically resolve the statements you've made so far into a clear conclusion 17:03:59
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ(also, for the sake of my question, the exact definition of 'healthy' doesn't really matter - the question applies whether you follow 98 or 114 as your guideline)17:04:42
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ

to try and word it more bluntly, to hopefully make more obvious where I'm seeing a logical contradiction (without intending to personally attack you):

  1. you accept that you could hypothetically act 'poorly' (for some definition of that term)
  2. you seem to agree that a healthy community is necessary for the success of Nix
  3. you seem to agree that resolving 'poor' behaviour is necessary for the community to remain healthy
  4. resolving such a situation will sometimes (or even often) require calling out the behaviour, because otherwise there is nothing to 'resolve'
  5. but you would not accept someone criticizing you on your behaviour or comments (ie. calling it out)

so in the hypothetical situation that you are behaving 'poorly', if one is not allowed to call it out so that it can be resolved (through mediation or otherwise), then that logically means that the behaviour cannot be corrected, and therefore the 'healthy community' objective cannot be achieved. no?

17:09:59
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆthat's why I asked "what am I missing here?", it was not a rhetorical question17:10:18
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ we clearly have some kind of diverging view on some aspect of this, but it's not clear to me what exactly it is 17:10:36
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ
In reply to @domenkozar:matrix.org
joepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ: I'm quite worried about the culture of telling people not to express their negative feelings on the RFC
expressing negative feelings is fine, and plenty of people have been doing so constructively over the past several... has it been months? but the emphasis there is on "constructively" - those expressions do need to come from a fundamentally empathic stance, a realization that one's own concerns are not the only ones that matter and that there is always going to be some weighing of competing interests and concerns.
17:15:09
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆie. it is not the opinion that is the problem, it's the way that a handful of people are choosing to express that opinion; in a hostile, uncooperative manner that ultimately does not contribute to improving the RFC to better represent the community17:15:47
@piegames:matrix.org@piegames:matrix.orgI just read the RFC again. Can somebody please re-explain me the hierarchies part? Why is "Create a hierarchical power structure" a non-goal, why did you decide against? And how does your proposal differ on that point?17:15:54
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringer
In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
jonringer: to clarify, my message wasn't a personal attack, nor an attempt to imply that you are behaving problematically. I'm just trying to better understand where you're drawing the lines of what is and isn't acceptable in the context of Nix's health as a project, because I cannot logically resolve the statements you've made so far into a clear conclusion
I think we are both having difficulty understanding each other. I've put most of my efforts into RFC 114
17:16:02
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ piegames: I believe that is due to be clarified in the RFC 17:16:09
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ jonringer: quite likely, but that is why I'm asking these clarifying questions; I would like to better understand your position on this 17:16:39
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆfor that same reason of operating from a fundamentally empathic stance; understanding your concerns and boundaries (and, hopefully, considering them in 98) seems a lot more constructive to me than ignoring them and turning it into what would essentially become an RFC popularity contest (if there is no mutual understanding)17:17:47
@piegames:matrix.org@piegames:matrix.org
In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
piegames: I believe that is due to be clarified in the RFC
As in: shall I wait for the next push and then ask again?
17:17:57
@joepie91:pixie.townjoepie91 πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ ash (it/its) πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ: ^ that's probably a question for you 17:18:15

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