| 24 Nov 2021 |
 @ryblade:matrix.org | we should never, ever, EVER get in the business of enforcing norms, or policing language, or rescuing people who feel offended. unpopular opinion: life is offensive, tough shit, deal with it. words on the internet are the least you should have to worry about in life. i come from a lot of marginalized communities myself, and i hate that i even have to say this every time in this day and age, but society kind of compels me to do so because otherwise people will assume my stoicism means i've never faced adversity, which is 100% untrue. | 13:30:07 |
 @joepie91:pixie.town | that is an abusive stance. | 13:30:37 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | you are disregarding people's specific personal circumstances, and essentially shifting the burden of dealing with abusive behaviour towards the victims of it, rather than the perpetrators or people in a moderation role | 13:31:11 |
 @zimbatm:numtide.com | In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
that is an abusive stance. please leave some room for other people's opinions | 13:31:28 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
that is an abusive stance. i grew up with domestic abuse, i'm not too keen on overusing that word to the point where it becomes meaningless. | 13:31:42 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | Jonas Chevalier: I do, but there are limits, and "fuck you, just deal with it" is one of them | 13:31:45 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | ask me why words don't hurt | 13:31:53 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | that is not a stance I am willing to entertain as valid | 13:32:03 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | ooh, this is getting juicy now | 13:32:18 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | (and more bluntly, if it becomes the social norm in the NixOS community, I will leave it) | 13:32:19 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | (and I suspect that so will many others) | 13:32:27 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | invalid, huh? wow. | 13:32:39 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | must be nice. | 13:32:53 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | i envy that you have such a perspective on things. | 13:33:34 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | ryblade (you/your): I would also like to point out that you've been extremely provocative and aggressive in your comments over the past few days seemingly unprompted, and that your behaviour is not remotely consistent with principles of de-escalation and mediation | 13:33:49 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | this is going well beyond "I have some concerns" and into "fuck everybody else" | 13:34:25 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | i consider you to be provocative as well. my ilved experiences are invalid because you disagree with them? | 13:34:26 |
| @zimbatm:numtide.com | In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
(and I suspect that so will many others) do what you want, but bullying people into your opinion is not constructive | 13:34:33 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | that's quite something. | 13:34:36 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | ryblade (you/your): I am not invalidating your experiences. I am stating that I will not under any circumstances accept your stance of "people will just have to deal with whatever gets thrown at them, tough shit". | 13:35:18 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | but i also respect your right to free speech. | 13:35:22 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | which, again, is an abusive stance. | 13:35:38 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | so in this example, i would never ever consider asking for moderative | 13:35:45 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | and quite overtly so. | 13:35:46 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | * so in this example, i would never ever consider asking for moderative intervention. | 13:35:52 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | no, I'm sure you wouldn't. I don't see how that relates to what I'm saying - you're being the aggressor here, of course you would not ask for moderation. | 13:36:10 |
| @ryblade:matrix.org | you deal with what is thrown at you in two clicks, it's easy. | 13:36:21 |
| @zimbatm:numtide.com | 🍿 | 13:36:29 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | again, you are leaving no space for other people's experiences and background | 13:36:38 |
| @joepie91:pixie.town | Jonas Chevalier: I do not find that an appropriate comment here | 13:36:47 |
