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5 Nov 2021
@jonringer:matrix.orgjonringerI feel like I'm starting to repeat myself, so I'm going to try and make up some work.02:20:37
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI know I could be wrong, and I acknowledge that. it's a subjective assessment.02:20:38
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesjonringer: thank you again for your time, and I'm sorry to make you do all this.02:20:54
@tomberek:matrix.orgtomberek ( Irenes I am purposefully doing this in a manner of asking questions about things that confuse me, or that I don't understand. If my manner is odd, that is why. I'm not trying to be rude or condecending. ) 02:21:20
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI'm going to try more radical honesty in the hope that you may react better to it. I'm not sure I believe that you're not trying to be condescending, but I accept your statement at face value for the purpose of discussion.02:22:08
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI don't remember the details of my thought process that you're asking about, the GitHub discussion was quiet for weeks.02:23:00
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI also don't understand why my thought process matters to you, and I could do a better job of volunteering helpful information if I did.02:23:47
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesWe are very different people, and that means that, first, the best way to communicate may be short and to-the point remarks, but, second, we are each at strong risk of misreading brevity as hostility.02:24:18
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesFor the removal of doubt, I'm not upset with you right now.02:24:58
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI understand that this is an important topic and that disagreement about it isn't personal.02:25:08
@tomberek:matrix.orgtomberekI'm referring to the interpretation of the community's reaction. I doubt the only reason people would not comment is because they did not want to change it. That doubt is leading me to ask if there are other reasons you thought/think about, or would consider.02:27:19
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesIn my experience with large-scale discussions of important things, negative opinions are always over-represented.02:28:05
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesThere's always a small set of people who have thought about the topic before and have their own well-formed opinions on it, and a much larger set of people for whom this is the first time they've taken the topic seriously.02:28:31
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesOne of the horrible things that social media is doing to society is that these days, the people who have never thought about the topic before feel an obligation to form a strong opinion on it, to do so immediately, and to express that opinion in public as a sign of tribal affiliation. I dislike that pattern strongly.02:29:39
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesFortunately, we didn't have a lot of that on the RFC.02:29:47
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI think pretty much everyone who weighed in had pre-existing feelings on the issue, and we can be grateful for that, because it's a lot easier to talk things through and appeal to reason when opinions are actually coming from a place of reason rather than from an urge to participate.02:30:21
@tomberek:matrix.orgtomberekHow much do you think the negative opinions are over-represented? How much do you think positive opinions are over-represented? (clearly not looking for exactness, an order of magnitude?)02:30:42
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesI think in a discussion like this negativity always crowds out positivity, because it's frightening to people.02:31:07
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesNegativity has a strong advantage.02:31:16
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesYou can see this at a glance by looking at anyone's Twitter timeline.02:31:27
@tomberek:matrix.orgtomberekOkay, what would you think would lead to negative opinions being under-represented?02:31:59
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesSo like02:32:35
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesif a person reads a 500-word piece of negativity and a 500-word piece of positivity02:32:47
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesthe negativity will stick in their mind far more strongly02:32:54
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesbecause the amygdala records memories more strongly when the emotions are stronger02:33:07
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesharsh words lead to stronger emotions02:33:13
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesespecially on topics where somebody has a personal stake02:33:20
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesit's unfair but it's how humans have always worked02:33:27
@tomberek:matrix.orgtomberekI might have gone too abstract. I'm asking about why people would not feel comfortable providing an opposing viewpoint in the RFC.02:33:45
@irenes:matrix.orgIrenesoh, sorry02:33:58

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