| 5 Nov 2021 |
 joepie91 🏳️🌈 | I think my understanding of their concern is accurate enough, however, and it seems to be a concern about overzealous application of social norms that one has difficulty adjusting to or that one simply doesn't know about - and I suspect that that is also what drove the suggestion to explicitly define acceptable behaviour in an RFC, to address this problem by having an unambiguous list of acceptable and unacceptable things so that one doesn't run that risk | 18:16:35 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | I believe the intention of RFC 98 was to prevent this by prioritizing deescalation over repercussions, ie. giving people room to adjust and make mistakes, and from jonringer's earlier comments about arbitration I believe that they share that goal - but I think it's safe to conclude that RFC 98 is currently not making this intention clear enough | 18:18:23 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | (I don't like talking for other people, but that seems like the only possible option here :/) | 18:18:52 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | ash (it/its) 🏳️⚧️: ^ so that is probably something to consider | 18:19:05 |
 ash (it/its) 🏳️⚧️ | thank you, that kind of feedback is very appreciated | 18:19:31 |
| ash (it/its) 🏳️⚧️ | please convey my appreciation to jonringer if he's receptive | 18:19:45 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | In reply to @domenkozar:matrix.org
if there's was ever a sign of oppressive authoritarianism in our community it's this kind of stuff happening on the very RFC that is saying to prevent it also, one note I want to make here: the problem we're running into here is kind of the community management equivalent of the self-hosting problem... we do not yet have structures in place for conflict resolution and/or intervention in unresolvable cases of disruptive behaviour, that's why this RFC exists, but that's also why it's extremely difficult to keep a high signal:noise ratio on the discussion of the RFC | 18:30:54 |
 Jonas Chevalier | I think this can be fixed by changing the wording in the RFC by the way | 18:31:02 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | Jonas Chevalier: I believe so too | 18:31:10 |
| Jonas Chevalier | For example replacing many of the instances of "ideology" | 18:31:37 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | or well, less 'changing the wording' and more 'adding wording', I think | 18:31:38 |
| Jonas Chevalier | * For example replacing many of the instances of "ideology". (it gives me an impression that there is a hidden agenda) | 18:32:10 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | as it needs to be broadly made clear, regardless of what the problematic behaviour is or what motivates it, that there should always be room for errors and adjustment | 18:32:27 |
| Jonas Chevalier | Just be more precise. If you say "values" then it's clear that it refers to the value statements. | 18:32:41 |
| Jonas Chevalier | Some words like that have a lot of baggage and we're seeing the projections that people do. | 18:33:33 |
| Jonas Chevalier | Unlike Irenes, I don't think that the negative comments should be dismissed. They should be taken very seriously and addressed. | 18:34:14 |
| Jonas Chevalier | As in: clarify | 18:34:23 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | however strange this may sound, there is unfortunately also 'baggage' of sorts to deliberately avoiding these words | 18:34:23 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | though the reason for that is a very complex and nuanced discussion that I'm not sure is useful to have here right now | 18:34:58 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | (I'm not disagreeing that there is baggage to using them, to be clear) | 18:35:32 |
| Jonas Chevalier | It would be better with specific examples | 18:36:26 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | I agree that specific examples can help communicate what is meant, yes | 18:36:51 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | but we should also be careful that it doesn't become (or look like) an exhaustive list | 18:37:03 |
| Jonas Chevalier | Another way to defuse some of the trust issues would be to add a failsafe mechanism, or just try the moderation team for X months | 18:37:21 |
| Jonas Chevalier | Once we have a concrete implementation, it will help people see that this can work | 18:37:49 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | with my 'experienced community manager' hat on I would suggest setting X fairly high | 18:37:59 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | it usually takes some time for people to adjust to this kind of community management model, and to learn to understand each other's communication patterns around conflict | 18:38:22 |
| joepie91 🏳️🌈 | a month is unlikely to be enough; probably also won't need 6 months like in some communities I've cleaned up, but probably something along the lines of 3-4 months | 18:38:51 |
| Jonas Chevalier | In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
I agree that specific examples can help communicate what is meant, yes I mean that the replacement & omission of words, and their related effects depends on the context. | 18:39:13 |
| Jonas Chevalier | In reply to @joepie91:pixie.town
I agree that specific examples can help communicate what is meant, yes * I mean that the replacement & omission of words, and their related effects depends on the context (in the document). | 18:39:20 |
